Relationship

I'm sure by now, most people would have heard of the Singapore blogger whom allowed her previous boyfriend to take nude photos of her.

If you hadn't, this is the aricle.
http://www.asiaone.com/Digital/News/Story/A1Story20080925-90005.html

The different perception they have towards this issued was mainly the first factor which had lead to their break-up. It is obvious that a satisfactory solution was not found even as their differences began to amplify. Their differences in their priority, for the girl she just wanted her privacy back while her boyfriend is only concern about the profits that he had made from allowing netizens to view her photos, has lead to the blogger's frustration to escalate (dyadic process).

As her boyfriend constant refusal to talk and discuss about the issue, indicating his desire to avoid communication and interaction with her, using negative identity management, it eventually led to the termination of their relationship.

At this resurrection process stage, both parties has already cut off all connections with one another and her boyfriend has already changed his number. Also, it seems that the blogger bemoans over this issue.

By now, her perception that of thinking that it is usual for a couple who is in love to have private moments, in this case her nude photos, would have changed. While technology progresses rapidly, her naive perception that digital cameras and handphone cameras are there for taking picture of almost anything, including her own nude photos to keep, has led her to become a prey of technologies.

Besides that, she should have known that these were against the laws in Singapore, whether or not the photos are publicised. Also, i feel that it is not necessary for them to take the photos so as to be able to share private moments between themselves personally. Things that you feel you would like to remember, endearing it in your heart is enough. If something is really important to you, you will not forget it, even if there are not photos. Perhaps, between this couple their relationship has progressed too fast, allowing little time for the experimenting and intensifying stage of the Knapp Model of Relational Development. Apparently, the girl has still not known her boyfriend well enough to be able to guess that her boyfriend would betray her one day in exchange for monetary gains. Prototypes of the guys would probably be developed by the public, labeling him as a jerk.

While this couple felt that having explicit and sexual photos of themselves taken and shared between themselves would perhaps, strengthen their relationship, I would beg to differ.

There are also other relational maintenance methods besides photo to share, that can improve and strengthen your relationship. For example, little surprises that my boyfriends gives me occasionally and many little things that he does for me to show that he love and cares for me, does indeed make me feel loved and so thankful to be with him!

Agree?